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Dating with clear standards/expectations is much... slower moving

2020.09.13 17:15 etsilleon Dating with clear standards/expectations is much... slower moving

I waited a year after my divorce to start dating. Once I did it was like a sprint. I was somewhat selective but I had more of a 'well let's see how this goes' approach. Which honestly did not really serve me well. I had a few great dating relationships. But most were not good and involved severe compromise because I thought it was my duty to 'give guys a chance' and 'see how things play out'. After being ghosted after sleeping with a guy for the first time (yes, ouch... actually how I found this sub because I posted about it here) I spent most of this summer doing lots of reflection about WHAT I WANT out of life and love, investing in myself and just enjoying the warm weather.
I'm a single mom divorcee and realizing that re-marriage is not a goal of mine, and neither is having more children. So all I really want out of dating is sex and companionship. My dating standards come down to this; 1. someone I am physically attracted to 2. someone who I can have good conversation with 3. someone who likes to go out 4. someone who is not necessarily dating for marriage or kids. And man, now that I am dating with this in mind things have SLOOOOWWWEEEED DOOOWWWWNNNNN. It used to be that I got 10 to 15 matches a week, and 5 of those I considered promising. I'm swiping less, and it feels like I'm being swiped on less. I'm getting maybe 2 or 3 promising matches a month, and most of those are fizzling into nothing.
I'll come across guys who seem really intelligent and interesting and have swiped on me, but I am just not physically or sexually attracted to them. (And btw I think I have pretty reasonable standards for physical attraction. I have dated really short guys before, -- like 5' 5" -- and I have also dated heavier guys as well as men of a variety of racial/ethnic backgrounds. So it's not like I'm looking for Ryan Gosling here.) Or I'll come across guys with lots of sex appeal, but they will be very shallow conversationalists and not very interesting. In the rare case that I find a nice looking guy who is also smart, like a very cute geologist I matched with a few weeks back, they will get hung up on the fact that I am not really on the traditional 'girlfriend to live in girlfriend to wife' path. Which just doesn't make sense for my life (I have 3 very young kids. The thought of bringing a man into my home or even re-marrying and having to do the 'blended family' thing honestly sounds like a nightmare.)
I have to say though, dating has been a lot less dramatic and more peaceful. I've been sticking to my boundaries and not compromising which has led to a drastic reduction in ghosting and other shitty OLD behavior. But it has also been just... very quiet. I am really having to learn to enjoy my own company. And I do have lots to keep me busy. It is just really amazing to compare my prior dating experience to my current one. Can anyone relate?
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2020.09.09 03:24 Jeffamazon The REAL Greatest Short Burn of the Century

Disclaimer from Quora: A true short squeeze is a fairly rare event. There are probably 100 predicted for every 1 that occurs.*
There needs to be an unexpected positive event. This could be a huge earnings surprise, a takeover offer, new patent, drug approval, etc.
Unscrupulous stock promoters (PUMPERS) often dangle a potential short squeeze as a carrot to entice inexperienced investors to buy a bad stock. For instance, you will find predictions of a “massive short squeeze” on virtually every message board for every penny biotech stock. If you point out that there is insufficient short interest for a squeeze, the promoters just add lies about “naked short selling”.*
There, nobody sue me for the pennies I have. The following is all for entertainment purposes only:
The intro:
Sup gamblers. Feel bad about missing the gain train on TSLA? Fear not - something much greater and stupider is here.
You know Citadel? The MM that took all our money today? Well now we finally won’t be at the mercy of the MMs. Instead, we’re going to temporarily join forces with the Galactic Empire and hijack the death star.
Our choice of weapon... $GME.
The setup:
Huh?? Isn’t GME an absolute piece of trash stock? NO (will explain below), and even if it is, it's not entirely relevant. The this turn around is going to make TSLA's short burn look like warm afternoon tea.
Why? Well, most short squeezes are mostly math. This one is special because we have math AND great underlying news.
To be clear, this will happen whether or not we participate. I prefer us idiots to be a part of history. Here’s what’s up:
Short interest:
GME currently has between 85% - 99.8% short interest, depending on what site you use. For context, 20% is already considered high as the moon. TSLA and NFLX were around 30-40% at their peak. But GME’S ACTUAL SHORT INTEREST IS OVER 110%. In case you think I’ve gone nuts, look below:

Shares Outstanding (June 2) = 64.8M
Total = Public Float = SO - IS = 55.8 M
Total = Adjusted Public Float - Ryan Cohen = 49.6M

Shares Shorted (9/2) = 55.7M

% Shorted (Total Shares) = 86%
% Shorted (Float) = 99.8%
% Shorted (Adj. Float) = 112.3%

This is unheard of. Also, the short interest ratio/days to cover is 16 DAYS right now. Shorts are beyond trapped in their position. And the insiders? They won’t sell. In fact.. they’ve been BUYING.
Fine, what if the shorts are correct? They’ve been printing for 5 years. Ok fellow gamblers, here’s where the real DD comes in. The reversal:
3 big things will cause this reversal. Ryan Cohen, retail option buying, and Kenny G (Citadel) himself.
Who’s Ryan Cohen?
Ryan Cohen sold Chewy in 2017 for $3.3 billion. He poured most of his money into Apple and Wells Fargo, saying he hates diversification and only goes all in into things he has high conviction in. Cohen is a Buffet-like investor. He is the largest individual owner of AAPL, and has sat on his hands doing nothing for 3 years.
Until last week… he went long on $GME.
Who cares right? He’s just another gambler like us willing to lose money. Not in this case… RC is special due to his expertise in e-commerce. He understands how a smaller company can compete against Amazon and Walmart despite heavy competition. THAT, combined with his hatred against diworsification makes his interest in GME a bit special.
RC can spin this into an e-commerce/tech company, which would make Wall Street drool from their mouths. He’s already caught the attention of a few people, hence the recent 75% run up since the RC announcement.
RC only needs to disclose his investments every 10 days. If he’s been buying since 8/31, we won’t know until this week.
Add to that, the original contrarian Michael Burry found that 90% of stores were free cash flow positive before COVID. GME’s balance sheet is healthy with $100M in net cash (around $500M cash and $400M debt), so they aren’t going bankrupt anytime soon. They also added 2 more activist investors, Kurtis Wolf and Paul Evans, who were nominated by Hestia Capital Partners and Permit Capital Enterprise Fund, to turn the ship around.
All this meaning, prominent figures have sKiN iN tHe gAmE, and if needed (unlikely) they have more cash to see it through.
Second and third, degenerate gambling retail robinhooders + CITADEL. Told you we’re going to work with him this time.
Thanks to MMs literally not using their brain and relying on ze maths to configure their entire business, we can take advantage of them sleeping at the wheel for a few seconds, and cause them to ram into GME for us.
It looks like this: RH Call Option buying -> MM Delta hedging/share purchase -> short squeezing -> Greater retail/RHers price action chasing/call option buying -> MM Delta hedging/share purchase -> short squeezing -> Institutional and new channels flip the script -> GME to $400+ -> cash out.
By the way. This is NOT a pump and dump. This is a kick in the shorts’ teeth. The stock will STAY HIGH.
For reference: if $GME was trading at the same P/S multiple as $CHWY, the share price would be $420.
Maths:
On being delta neutral - quick refresher from a WSB classic:
“Part of the reason we see outsized moves is when a stock starts moving the dealers who are short the calls need to buy more stock to hedge. This can easily double the amount of buying pressure out there and lead to very exaggerated moves.
As the stock goes up, so does the delta of the stocks calls and dealers who were originally perfectly delta hedged before the move effectively become short the stock as it moves higher so they need to buy more stock to “hedge up” or flatten their exposure/risk."
Remember, since GME is literally 99.8% of float short (ignoring RC’s shares for now) they currently HAVE LESS THAN 50,000 SHARES IN LIQUIDITY.
https://iborrowdesk.com/report/GME
As of writing this, delta on average is around 0.200, give or take. Higher for near dated (0.395) lower for long dated (0.195). Let’s be conservative and call it 0.2 for the time being. So now, for every call option I buy, MMs need to delta hedge with 20 shares.
Here’s where it gets insane:
If $100,000 in calls are bought from RH, Citadel is forced to buy the remaining 50,000 shares. I’m using 10/16 $15C for this example. This is an insanely small amount of money, especially with Ryan Cohen, retail idiots, and the rest of the SeekingAlpha vultures waiting for this play. It’s a ticking time bomb waiting to happen.
Let’s say Burry wakes up and decides to drop $600,000 in call options. This is going to force Kenny to delta hedge 300,000 in GME shares. When there are only under 50,000 shares available in PUBLIC FLOAT. This has NEVER HAPPENED BEFORE IN HISTORY. In an accidental squeeze (KBIO, VW), the shorts can’t buy back and get priced out momentarily. Pump and dump. Not what's happening here.
In a contrarian bet leading to a squeeze, shorts bail their positions and the stock STAYS HIGH (TSLA, PTON). The stock is no longer being artificially suppressed, and the shorts are NOT going short again.
To tell you the truth, I don’t even know how far this is going to blow up, since there is literally no historical precedent for this. I just know things are about to get very very insane.
Now also add in the fact that GME is at a 5 year low, which means shorts can be largely satisfied with their gains, and are comfortable covering their shorts. Which, as a reminder, they have to BUY back.
-Cut to Ryan Gosling toppling the Jenga pieces-
The timing:
Alright, if you’ve read up to now, I can assume you’re in. IV is off the charts right now. That’s what happens when a stonk goes up 75% in a week. Sorry, but the Ryan Cohen news is actually big news.
PRE-EARNINGS BET
There’s no idea how the call will go. So place your bets if you think it will go well. If $GME absolutely misses the mark, this DD is worthless. BTW GME flopped the last 2 earnings - that's why there have been no big gains. Proceed at your own risk.
Few things I’m betting on:
First, GME beats earnings. All gaming companies, Nintendo, Sony, ATVI beat due to COVID lockdowns. Same store sales should be flat or up, with 300 less total stores. $GME is expected to post a loss of 1.27 EPS. That's way too low.
Second, activist investor activity. Cohen is sharp as a knife and will make sure things get aligned correctly. He's more financially oriented than most foundeCEOs. He can probably recite CHWY's balance sheet to you off the top of his head, and he understands the investing environment (bad IPOs, interest rates, SPACs). Meaning, he's not a gung ho YOLO Masayoshi / Grant Cardone coked out founder. He's disciplined. Yea I did some stalking... Well you know I had to.
Third, positive news cycle due to Console Cycle: http://charts.stocktwits.com/production/original_240233258.jpg
If you’re wondering why fund managers aren’t covering and going long, remember that they have a JOB. They can’t make contrarian bets at the risk of looking idiotic. Cohen and Burry can because they own their own money.
They can talk about how $GME is going to be Blockbustered. Only one problem - GME’s Netflix… is GME itself. By the way, VW was also heavily shorted during a recession because everyone thought they would be bankrupt. Jus sayin.
AFTER EARNINGS
If GME rockets after earnings, the short squeeze has started and we can pile on weekly 10-20% OTM options to force KG to delta hedge by buying shares, ad infinitum: see $TSLA.
If GME tanks, buy cheap options in anticipation of the short burn.
The trade:
In order to capture the biggest upside, the highest strike call option is best. Remember when TSLA was going up so fast they didn't even have existing options to match the parabolic gains? Same will happen here. We only have $30Cs now, so these will have to do.
15 Jan 2021 $30.00 C.
Also, since we don’t know when GME will skyrocket, this gives you time to capture any squeeze that happens.
16 Oct $15.00 C.
This lets you capture more asymmetric upside in case the squeeze happens quickly.
LAST, and timing is crucial here. ONLY WHEN I get the confirmed signal that the squeeze is happening, I will pound weeklies 10-20% above strike price. Again forcing Kenny to hedge with shares, causing shorts to cover and BUY back, increasing the delta of the call, getting retail and institutional attention, buying more calls/shares, delta hedge, shorts cover, ad infinitum.
The weeklies have the highest delta, so Citadel will be forced to hedge the most by buying shares. In other words, we’ll get the biggest bang for our buck in squeezing these.
There is a chance Citadel/MMs switches to buying puts to delta hedge. Like I said, they’re asleep at the wheel for a second, retail will likely ram before they change their algos.
However, once the squeeze takes off, not even Citadel will be able to stop it. In any case, if they do start to buy puts, we can sell the puts as a bonus.
Like dlkdev once said, the only way to beat a rigged game is to rig it even harder.
This is not fraud. There is no manipulation here. We aren’t forcing anyone to do anything. It’s going to happen with or without us. But I want to ride.
Earnings will light the match, but we can add all sorts of gasoline to the fire.
I stole some data/ideas from a couple of different articles on Seeking Alpha/reddit/google/youtube. I’m not claiming credit for this trade, I don’t really care. In fact, I beg you to completely ignore me. I even dare you to short GME. I’ll happily take your money.
TL;DR: $GME is vastly oversold.
GME is TSLA one year ago. GME is AAPL in 2017. Add to that the greatest short burn you’ll see in history, and you’re in for a hell of a show.
Also GME is uncorrelated with the market. It might even be negatively correlated (it was today). It's only worth $500M (3 Bel-Air houses) and fund managers are happy to cut a high risk/low return position. Let your cognitive biases run free.
Ryan Cohen & Michael Burry if you see this - you better buy as much as you can now. When GME gets to fair value of $26B+, you won't be able to take over the company and kick out the backwards exec team. Good luck.
**Edit1: $GME missed and tanked. Not much Cohen can do in 1 week. IV is dead and liquidity is still dry. Get cheap calls while you still can. PLAY IS STILL ON.
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2020.09.08 07:46 kwpluckett Kwpluckett #70.5 : The Notebook (2004)

IMDB
Challenge started: 5/18/2020 Date Watched: 9/7/2020 Runtime: 2h4m Rating: PG-13 Watched on: Netflix Rotten Tomatoes: %53 Imdb rating: 7.8 Genre: Romance/Drama Directed by: Nick Cassavetes 
Google synopsis:
In 1940s South Carolina, mill worker Noah Calhoun (Ryan Gosling) and rich girl Allie (Rachel McAdams) are desperately in love. But her parents don't approve. When Noah goes off to serve in World War II, it seems to mark the end of their love affair. In the interim, Allie becomes involved with another man (James Marsden). But when Noah returns to their small town years later, on the cusp of Allie's marriage, it soon becomes clear that their romance is anything but over.
My thoughts:
My wife made me take a break from binging Cobra Kai... to watch the Notebook.
I immediately realized, like a certain character in the film that, that I had forgotten that I had experienced watching this entire film, with my wife, once before... the whole film continued to play out like a distant memory I had inside a dream, some time ago...
That being said The Notebook is highly sentimental, but it moves really quick for a romance movie. It builds up your feelers, then hits you with a left hook. You kind of feel cheated on. (Dirty, filthy Notebook.) You rarely get what you want and when you do it's never as expected.
That being said my wife loves this movie and watching this film with her for the first time, again, was magic. She giggled, she smiled, she cried, she told me she loves me.
That's all one can ask for in a romance movie afterall.
I'll give the Notebook 3.5 shooting stars out of 5.
Note, I'm only counting this as a 0.5 a view since I've seen it before.
Find me on letterboxd
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2020.09.05 17:00 Sudorul Please help a brother understand how things work.

28M,never been on a date ,fked only once with an escort some years ago ,almost no girls ever seemed interested in me . And with the pandemic the story begins. Due to circumstances that don't matter anymore ,a girl from a coffee shop i go asked for my number so we can hang as friends i still asume.We knew each other for a few months. Then quarantine came for 2 months ,she had no work anymore ,and started talking to me due to being bored and needing attention(even tho she had one or 2 fwb who came around sometimes),then things escalated after i told her i like her,we started getting really flirty and afectuos with each other ,she told me that i would be great for her but she doesn't want relashionships anymore but might be into fwb(she got into 2 relashionships recently that both failed),then at some point one day she started sending me nudes ,long story short i came to her place ,stayed 2 days ,cudled ,kissed didn't have sex due to some problems she had internally ,no probl there. After i left and went to work she told me she is confused ,she always saw me as a friend ,she doesn't want to lose me too and stuff. So after all theese months ,one month ago i told her i need to ghost her for a while cus my feelings were getting too strong towards her and it was just anoying me at that point. In conclusion i got with this girl further then i've ever been,she woke me up from depresion and self hatred ,started losing weight ,eating better,reading and trying to get my shit togheter cus i've wasted too much time not getting girls. I really like her as a person ,i would want to sex her up(that won't go away),and i would be good for her for many many reasons but if she doesn't see it ,i really don't know that to do about it,how to open her eyes. Questions: 1.I am really starting to miss her and i want to write to her soon.should i?(no more feelings for her,learned my fkcing lesson) 2.What do you ppl think about this experience? Besides ,,forget about her move on to the next". 3.Idk how to meet new ppl,new groups.In my social group everyone is hooked up beetween them for a long time now ,i'm the only single one and they have no friends that are girls. 4.How does confidence feel ? I almost never got atention from girls ,this time being the most intense and also was the first time we were both into each other,i don't really know how to feel confident since i barely saw interest from girls.
I am really sry for this very long post ,i just wanted to see what you lovely ppl think,my friends already gave me their opinions. I wish all of you well and hope to get some clarity.Sometimes i wish a Ryan Gosling would come into my life and coach the hell out of me.(stupid crazy love reference).
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2020.08.31 06:08 katisamarshmallow 27 [F4R] Michigan Bound

In a month I'll be moving out of my home state of CA to live in the below freezing temperatures of a state I've not even visited. Why am I doing such a thing? Because I'm ready to start living my life for myself and doing all that I can in the pursuit of genuine happiness and internal peace. This has been a year of personal change for me. I'm single for the longest I've been in years. I've quit drinking. I've cut back on smoking and as soon as I land in this snowy northern state I'll be going cold turkey on that as well. I've begun breathwork, a form of meditation that releases stagnant emotions from the body and clears the head so fast I still can't believe it. Once I'm settled, breathwork will be a part of my daily ritual.
What I'm currently looking for are folks who can just help me get my bearings. Where are the bowling alleys? Where are the axe throwing locations? Where can I use these roller skates I just bought and don't know how to balance on? Where are the art museums? Where are the fancy tea spots? Where are the donut shops? I've recently heard of a summer treat made with ginger ale and vanilla ice cream that is apparently very popular in Michigan. Where can I find that treat and also which beachy lake can I lay down on after I've consumed it and feel like I might die? Where are the poetry slams, the libraries, the aquariums, where is the historical architecture? Where are the hiking trails? Where are the places you know are cool and want to share with someone who feels like they've landed on another planet and may be dealing with a degree of culture shock?
I'm an introverted, though often mistaken for an extroverted, woman who enjoys an off the wall sense of humor (think Children's Hospital or Futurama). I've spent a great deal of my life indoors watching foreign and art house type films (let's talk about the Criterion collection), and finding eclectic music (Ryan Gosling has a band that only makes songs about ghosts). I've been through my share of life experiences, and this move is about shedding my old beliefs about myself and relearning how to feel the breeze entering my lungs.
I would enjoy slowly and tentatively building some healthy, solid friendships. I'm finding myself and I'm not ready to date. Of course, something could shift over time, but that time isn't now, and let's enjoy the blessings we have before looking to see if life molds them into different blessings. Even if I was looking for a relationship, I'm childfree all the way, and I would want a LAT (living apart together) monogamous committed relationship. This would mean choosing to love each other every day, making a point to make time for each other, while also never having our individuality cut down. A relationship that has nothing to do with who's doing the dishes or having a dog vs having a cat. It would be about the adventures we actively choose to pursue together because we truly enjoy being together.
This post probably sounded solemn, so, whoops. Could be the headspace I'm in. I'm typically a pretty colorful character.
If you're someone who likes to get out, who isn't afraid of the world, or even if you're someone who's been through it all and is ready to live their life and laugh their laugh, having already digested the life lessons that have been handed to you and integrated them, reach out. Maybe I'll spruce this post up later, maybe I won't.
Oh, ugh, I'm white, 4'11", Betty Boop eyes, 2 tats and one shaved head. There.
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2020.08.26 20:55 TheUknownSkull718 CMV: If most men just took care of themselves/lookmaxxed, they would by physically attractibe to a decent set of women

There are lots of men on reddit or the overally internet that believe their literal walking goblins if they arent an 8/10 or more. They compare themselves to celebrities like Chris hemsworth, ryan gosling, brad pitt, idres elba etc. Pretty much any good looking celebrity and conclude that since they find them attractive, more than 80% of women worldwide finds them attractive.
Guys who compare themselves to celebrities are literally no better than girls who comare themselves to women like taylor swift, lady gaga, rihanna, beyonce, emma watson etc. And sure these women are attractive but that doesnt make the women that dont looke like them any more unattractive. There are guys out there that dont these female celebrities attractive, just like how not every women is chasing after Sean O'Pry.
But guys (at least in my view) seem to stretch this waaay too far and make it seem like if you dont look objectively like this then no women will find your attractive, or maybe she'll find you alittle attractive but if your arent ryan gosling, she's gonna cheat on you for any chance she can get to fuck the best looking dude, even if she find you attractive already.
Im a firm believer that if most guys just took really good care of themselves, they'd be somewhat attractive to a decent number of women. Of course your not going to be attractive to every women but you can atleast have a small percentage of women low-key checking out out.
If guys just:
Got their haircuts every 2 weeks to every month (ik its not that easy with covid)
work out just alittle (even just to lose weight and not gain muscle, but gaining muscle can increase your attractiveness maybe by 1-3 points)
wore better fitted, clean clothes
took care of hygiene (teeth, face, skin, wrinkles hair etc)
dated girls shorter than them (and even if you cant, there are girls out there that actually like short guys)
and just add alittle bit or personality (basic social skills like talking, being polite and just alittle more confidence in yourself etc.)
Im a firm believer that if most men just took care of themselves really well, they'd be a "chad" to some girls.
sure im not gonna deny the fact that more than half of our physical attractivness is more genetics based then enviromental based but 2 things on that:
1) just because you were born good looking doesnt mean you can eat all the fast food you want and not brush your teeth for 10 days and still think you can wake up hot. Even male models have to take care of themselves to represent a certain image. some male models dont even look like what they look like in the picture when they wake up, except Henry Cavill, he's the really REALLY rare exception tho but 99% of dudes dont look like him. but even some women on reddit dont even find him that attractive, so thats already out the window.
2) most men (or should i say people) have pretty decent to average ( and maybe even good) genetics. Go outside and whenever you feel like it, do me a favor and rate 10 random strangers from 1-10 (not counting fat people since thats mostly a choice than biological and not counting old peole since they've already past their experation date), i bet atleast out of 10 ppl, maybe 5+ of them are atleast a 5/10 in physically attractiveness. Maybe 1 unlucky 3/10 byt thats the minority.
Looks at girls who wear make up, girls with fake hair, fake asses, hair extensions etc. Even some of these on a day to day basis are no more than a 6/10 whey they wake up in the morning but there are still men out there that still find them somewhat attractive. same shit applies to guys.
Not every chick wants a tall, strong, chisled jawline white guy. some girls want an averaged height asian with short black hair, some want a tall bearded black guy, some want blone giar white guys, some want bald guys, some want overall bearded guys, some want pretty boys, lumberjacks, white collor, gamers etc. you dont see, 1,000,000,000 women just thirsting after 1 guy, you just dont see that, because, JUST LIKE MEN, women have DIFFERENT things they find attractive in a guy. Just like not every guy wants a blue eyed blonde girl. some want tall girls, some chubby, some skinny, some blue hair etc. Human tastes in mates are so dam complex, its really REALLY hard to put in 1 box and make it seem like 500,000,000 ppl want that 1 person.
you might think your the most ugly mofo when you wake up in the morning but i bet there's atleast a few girls that wont find you that bad to look at in the morning (if you atleast wash your face with some water im assuming)
like a quote once said: we judge ourselves more harshly than anyone judges us (or something along the lines)
(This is kind of seperate to the post but id like to add anyway)
i also want to add in this post, what add to this post, what about the women that didnt find their man attractive when they first met but after getting to know them overtime, they started to get more physically attracted to them and overall fell in love with their whole being?
i thought women only truly loved men that were 8/10 or more?
and you might say "yea your right in some points but you see women stay with good looking jerks all the time despite getting beat by them in a abusive realationship"
and yea you have a point in that argument but women like that are thinking more with their pussies than with their heads (like how guys think more with their dicks than with their brain). They're thinking too much with lust which in some cases backfires (like getting a kid). its good that you find him physically attravtive, its different when your willing to get yourself hurt to suck his dick.
plus how do you know every relationship the abusive man was a hot guy? how do you know if he was a "normie" or just your average looking dude but women stayed with him because she genuinely loved that man not from his looks but for his being?
ive just wanted to say (and i did like 3 times already lol) that if guys just took care of themselves, they can be hot to atleast some women cause beauty in some cases is actually subjective.
Chads are a combination of personal preference and basic looks.
prime example is ladyboners . some of the guys that women drool over on that sub, even if i was a women, i wouldnt see the appeal of some of those guys.
CMV (Change MY View)
Edit: i also messed up on some of the words when typing because i was typing too fast on the keyboard and forgot to re edit, so if you see any mispeals, please forgive me. im 100% english
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2020.08.18 05:25 saintpeterbambibold Twist on the Celebrity Hall Pass List (Not a serious post - we could all use a bit of levity in our lives)

My girlfriend and I were talking about hot celebrities we found attractive. I brought up the Hall Pass list (There was a Friends episode about this). We started thinking about who we would include in our list, and I had to shut it down. This conversation is so cliché. I told her we needed to put a different spin on it.
Instead of coming up with our own hall pass list, I’ve decided we need a “celebrity obligation list.“ This is where I come up with a list of guys that she is not allowed to pass up and she comes up with a list of women that I simply have to have sex with, should the opportunity arise (any day now, I’m sure 😂). They must be alive and how they look NOW (you can’t say Rob Lowe circa St Elmos Fire). And take the fact that they’re married out of it. Assume they’re single (I don’t need any “home wrecker” comments).
This is where it got fun. Sure, I threw (1)Ryan Gosling in there. It’s on so many girls’ lists so I almost automatically disqualified him, but the thought of dating a girl that actually “closed” the guy on more girls’ lists than anyone else was too good to pass up. She’s like, “so you want me to bang Ryan Gosling...for you?” Um, YAH! (2) Jack Nicholson (she almost vomited). (3) Christopher Walken (the mans a national Treasure🤷🏼‍♂️). (4) Mini Me was disqualified because apparently he’s passed away (missed opportunity there) so instead Barack Obama. (5) Finally Robert Pattinson (I had to give her ONE. She really thinks he’s hot).
She’s working on my list now and something tells me Mila Kunis won’t be on it🤔. So name some people on your parters “celebrity obligation list”. I swear to god if you type “my partner and I are monogamous and I could never dream of even talking about him/her with another”…you deserve whatever comments come your way.
EDIT: 1. She started with Ruth Bader Ginsberg (well played, Bambi)
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2020.08.14 10:08 Drain_Bamage_67 I'm a single 33M and feel like I'll never get the hang of this

I'm kind of frustrated with this whole dating thing and at my age I'm really worrying whether I'll ever find some sort of happiness in this regard.
I just feel like there's something in me that turns women off. Like, my exterior is shiny (I have a fancy med school degree, look like I'm much younger and consistently get called attractive by conventionally attractive women. No financial stability though) but my personality, my soul, what's inside, is awkward and unattractive to most women.
I'm not your typical, happy go lucky person. I suck at dancing, have an extremely dry sene of humor, would much rather go on a hike or discuss politics and weird movies sharing a joint with you rather than whatever it is normies do and talk about (which I have absolutely no idea of and no interest in). The thing is that the women whom I find attractive and who are into these things too dont seem to notice me because I look too normal to them I guess? Hell, not just the women, everyone in general. I feel like I just lack mojo you know? I'd try to get into more normie concerns but that would make me inauthentic and that's supposedly a turn off for people right?
I just have poor performance on dating apps. I don't know how to take appealing selfies and staged photos so I dont have much to post as pictures. I cant come up with catchy tag lines.
I have 0 male friends who could give me advice on this as my few male friends are married or with children. Whenever I've expressed discomfort to some guy about my dating prowess (or lack thereof) they just wonder how someone like me could have problems in the matter and say I just have to be confident. The thing is, I am confident about my ability to attract someone (not a specific person) and yeah I can hook up from time to time, but it's very rare that I can attract the kind of women I'm REALLY attracted to.
I've had LTR yes but in both cases I felt like I was settling and didnt really mind when things were over.
I don't chase after women, I've never declared my undying love for them on the second date etc but I just feel like there's some fundamental thing in my behavior that comes off as needy and offputting.
Maybe I'm feeling like this since I had a recent break up ish situation where after 3 months of dating this girl I really liked she out of the blue said she didnt want anything serious while she sensed I did. Honestly there were a ton of sign posts along the way that this was the case but I ignored them and feel dumb for having done so. I feel like if I was this normal person that has like 5 options on the wings or whatever and wont commit even to someone I like I would not have been hurt by this.
I just wish I'd meet some dating guru a la Ryan Gosling in that cheesy flick ya know?
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2020.08.06 06:01 ItsOnLikeNdamakung So, I met someone new

I've become a fairly consistent member of this forum since being dumped a month and a half ago by my ex girlfriend after three years together. Like every other guy here I felt she was "the one". Well, that clearly didn't work out.
However, after all of this time I feel rather at peace with everything. I miss her and what we had, but how she left me leaves me bitterly sour towards her. I want to vomit when I see her come across my phone. We co-parent so I occasionally see her and the new guy she started dating two weeks after we ended. It still sucks a bit but I don't give the two of them the time of day.
Monday, however, was a great day. After a day of soul crushing work I decided that I look too good to just go home, so I go to a local haunt of mine that is also a notorious singles haven. I order a beer, some food, and just immerse myself into whatever hockey game that was on that day.
Anyways, this absolute 10/10 sat down next to me, ordered her stuff, and started watching the same game. Well, one thing turned into another (like it happens at a neighborhood bar), and we were having a several hour conversation about everything. It was one of the best conversations I had in a long time. She ended up coming over to my place the following night and while nothing happened the same conversations continued. It was nice.
Now, I'm no Ryan Gosling so rarely have I ever been approached by a girl at a bar, especially one that I will admit is a bit out of my league. We admitted our mutual attraction to one another but also the desire for nothing serious (she was also recently dumped). We have talked everyday and there are some real connections between us. Will that manifest into a serious relationship? Who knows. I'm going into this with no expectations.
The lesson of this post is this my fellow dumpees: there is true power in positivity, and maybe a finely pressed suit just waiting to be worn. Women are intuitive. They pick up on body language and how a guy behaves and acts. Try to be positive and just go out and have fun and expect nothing. Hell, It's okay to still think of your ex and maybe even love them still (children will make love feel even more intense), but your ex cannot live rent free in your head. You will be surprised by what may happen if you just simply live life. Pick yourself up young kings: the world is yours.
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2020.08.04 23:28 TheGoat786 Actors That Are Good At Comedy and Drama?

Who do you think are some actors that are good at doing comedy and drama. Here are some that I think are good at both.
Jim Carrey
Comedy- Dumb and Dumber, Ace Ventura, Liar Liar, The Mask, The Cable Guy, etc
Drama- The Truman Show- Won GG for Best Actor, should of easily been nominated for Oscar, Man on the Moon, Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind
Robin Williams
Comedy- Stand-Up work, Mrs.Doubtfire, Jumanji, Mork and Mindy
Drama- Good Will Hunting, Dead Poets Society, Worlds Greatest Dad, Good Morning, Vietnam
Adam Sandler- There’s no one better when he tries
Comedy- Happy Gilmore, Billy Madison, SNL, The Waterboy, The Wedding Singer, etc
Drama- Uncut Gems(robbed of nomination) Punch-Drunk Love(Great portrayal of social anxiety), Reign Over Me, The Meyerowitz Stories, Men, Women, and Children
Steve Carrell
Comedy- The Office, The 40-Year-Old Virgin, Anchorman, Date Night
Drama- Foxcatcher, The Big Short, Beautiful Boy, The Way, Way Back
Woody Harrelson
Comedy- Cheers, Zombieland, White Men Can’t Jump, Kingpen
Drama- The People vs Larry Flynt, The Messenger, Rampart, Three Billboards, etc
Bryan Cranston
Comedy- Malcolm in the Middle, Seinfeld, The King of Queens
Drama- Breaking Bad, Trumbo, The Infiltrator
Will Ferrell- Despite the hate for him, he’s incredibly talented
Comedy- SNL legend, Anchorman, The Other Guys, Old School, Elf, Step Brothers
Drama- Stranger Than Fiction, Everything Must Go, Winter Passing
Mark Wahlberg- This sub hates him, but I think he’s hilarious and entertaining
Drama- The Departed, The Fighter, Lone Survivor, Boogie Nights
Comedy- The Others Guys(so good at dry humor), Date Night, Daddy’s Home, Ted
Kurt Russell
Comedy- Big Trouble in Little China, Overboard, Captain Ron
Drama- Escape from New York, The Thing, The Hateful Eight, Death Proof, etc
Tom Hanks- Young Hanks was very funny
Comedy- The Burbs, Big, The Money Pit, Bachelor Party
Drama- Forrest Gump, Cast Away, Philadelphia, Saving Private Ryan, etc
Bill Murray- Comedy legend who is always a fantastic dramatic actor.
Comedy- Caddyshack, Ghostbusters, Stripes, What About Bob?, Quick Change, etc
Drama- Lost in Translation(Should of won the Oscar), Groundhog Day(comedy/drama), St. Vincent, Scrooged, etc
Ben Stiller
Comedy- Dodgeball, Zoolander, Meet the Parents, There’s Something About Mary, etc
Drama- Permanent Midnight, Brad’s Status, Greenberg, Your Friends and Neighbors
John C. Reilly
Comedy- Talladega Nights, Step Brothers, Walk Hard
Drama- Stan and Ollie, Chicago, Magnolia,
Bradley Cooper
Comedy- The Hangover, Wedding Crashers, A-Team
Drama- A Star is Born, American Hustle, Silver Linings Playbook, etc
Steve Buscemi
Comedy- Adam Sandler movies, The Big Lebowski, The Death of Stalin
Drama- Boardwalk Empire, The Sopranos, Fargo, Reservoir Dogs
Owen Wilson
Comedy- Wedding Crashers, Starsky and Hutch, Zoolander, etc
Drama- Midnight in Paris, Bottle Rocket, Royal Tenenbaums
Vince Vaughn
Comedy- Wedding Crashers, Old School, Anchorman, etc
Drama- Dragged Across Concrete, Brawl in Cell Block 99, Hacksaw Ridge
Luke Wilson
Comedy- Old School, Idiocracy, etc
Drama- Meadowland, Bottle Rocket, etc
Jeff Bridges
Drama- True Grit, Crazy Heart, Starman, etc
Comedy- The Big Lebowski, Thunderbolt and Lightfoot (comedy/drama)
Sam Rockwell
Comedy- Seven Psychopaths, Galaxy Quest, Mr. Right
Drama- Three Billboards, Lawn Dogs, Moon, Vice(comedy/drama), etc
Jeff Daniels- One of the most underrated actors ever
Comedy- Dumb and Dumber, Something Wild, Archnophobia
Drama- The Newsroom, The Purple Rose of Cairo, The Squid and the Whale, etc
Other Mentions
Eddie Murphy- Notable dramas- Dreamgirls and Dolemite Is My Name
Steve Coogan- Notable Dramas- Philomena, Stan and Ollie
John Candy- Notable Dramas- JFK and Only the Lonely
Chris Farley- Showed his acting chops in Tommy Boy. They said he could of won an Oscar for Fatty Arbuckle.
Tom Cruise- Tropic Thunder(comedy), Magnolia(drama), Born on the Fourth of July(drama), Rain Man(drama)
Robert Downey Jr- Chaplin (drama), Tropic Thunder(comedy)
Jack Black- Notable dramas- Bernie, King Kong
Jonah Hill- Notable dramas- Moneyball, Don’t Worry He Won’t Get Far on Foot
Channing Tatum- 21 Jump Street(comedy), Foxcatcher(drama)
John Goodman- Comedic legend, 10 Cloverfield Lane(drama)
Ryan Gosling- The Nice Guys(comedy)
Samuel L. Jackson- Pulp Fiction (drama), The Hateful Eight (drama/comedy), Snakes on a Plane (comedy)
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2020.08.03 18:13 RosenPlamz69 The Chart of Treatment

1: Circus freak, you will be treated like a monster or some carnival attraction (Elephant Man, StBlackOps2Cel, etc.)
2: Very ugly, similar sort of treatment, though less severe, mocked regularly (St. Hamudi, HeedandSucceed, etc.)
3: Ugly, mocked and generally (mostly subconsciously) treated like a sub-human (Danny DeVito, Woody Allen, etc.)
4: Below average, may as well be invisible to most people (especially girls), mocked occasionally (Savvy guy, Infinite1, etc.)
5: Average, almost completely invisible to everyone, mocked only sometimes (though not unprovoked) (Higgabigga, Kent, etc.)
6: Above average, still quite invisible, though you can realistically get dates with girls, mocked rarely (Jimmy Kimmel, Gordon Ramsay, etc.)
7: Chadlite/pretty boy, unlikely to get approached by a girl, though she will often agree to go on a date if you approach her, almost never mocked (Timothee Chalamet, Harry Styles, etc.)
8: Chad, sometimes approached by girls, they will almost always agree to go on a date, practically never mocked (Ryan Gosling, Chris Evans, etc.)
9: Megachad, often approached by girls, crushed on a lot, never mocked (Chris Hemsworth, Brad Pitt, etc.)
10: Gigachad, guaranteed to get approached at least once when he goes outside, basically worshipped by women, never mocked (Jason Momoa, Henry Cavill, etc.)
I know it's more nuanced than this (especially with the pretty boy thing) but this is a rough kinda chart of how people are treated depending on their looks. For some categories I couldn't think of celebrity examples so I used incel celebrities jfl.
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2020.07.25 08:57 Quittingbitterness [COM] Group Piece for my Ghosts of Saltmarsh Campaign

I have a GoS (5e) campaign that is coming to a close, and I'd like to give everyone a gift of a digital piece of art of the 5 characters together. My idea for this is that it's like a group or class photo, in a casual or "cute" art style- the campaign has had a very light tone and the art should reflect that.
Characters: 5
Budget: $75, unless that's super unreasonable (I'm not sure at all what is a fair rate for this, and would obviously want to agree to a rate before work is started) Edit: my wife, who is one of the players, says 100$ is more reasonable. Happy to start with that number.

Character Descriptions:
Jesser Nopenstallen, Gnome wizard. Handsome and grungy, he basically wears the fantasy equivalent of torn jeans and an old rock band T-shirt. He has a familiar that is a clockwork dragon and loves to cast Chromatic Orb. Celebrity Inspiration: Ryan Gosling
Messer Nopenstallen, Gnome Rogue (arcane trickster). Charming and well dressed, Messer is known for his taste in fine cloaks and accessories. He wears a crown of brass, shaped into waves, that he won in combat with the king of the Bullywugs. Celebrity Inspiration: Matt Damon
Pesser Nopenstallen, Gnome Fighter (Eldritch Knight). Known as "pokes", he wields two rapiers and is clad in the seashell shaped "armor of the mariner". He has long, curly dark hair. Celebrity Inspiration: Danny Mcbride
Nikoom Wayfinder, Loxodon Cleric of Poseidon (tempest). Nikoom is the most serious of the group, clad in mithral armor and a long black cloak and wielding a mace and a trident. Celebrity Inspiration: Kevin James (I don't know, this was his idea)
Moira WaveChaser, Water Eladrin Horizon Walker Ranger. With blue skin and short cropped dark hair, Moira is a surly woman who has begrudgingly begun to care for those around her. Her signature weapon is called the "Blade of Bane", a dagger made out of Coral and driftwood, specially created to destroy the evil gods of the ocean.
Let me know if you have other questions, and like I said I'm happy to agree on a price/style before any work is begun. I think our last session will be a week from today (Friday the 31st) but would put an absolute final due date of August 7th.
E: Closed. Thanks to all who submitted.
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2020.07.18 19:19 invinciblent I've been stressed the hell out these days and idk what to do, I feel mostly hopeless and utterly helpless. [Long story]

You might think I'm some nerd but the fact is I hate studies. I've passed 5 semesters of my BS CS degree, scoring the highest CGPA in the batch, but I learnt practically almost nothing since I study in this shit university in a shit country. So, at the start of this (6th) semester I ought to myself, I have to learn things that'd help me in the field when I graduate, so I wouldn't end up wasting my parent's money on my 16 years education and ruining their expectations. Also I belong to a lower middle class family, that too in a 3rd world country so there's also the stress of being jobless and the fear of not being able to contribute in uplifting my family's financial status.
Now to the topic of this post, we were told at the beginning of this semester by almost all teachers that we'd have to submit a semester project for each subject. That was before lockdown. But a week into the semester, the lockdown came and we got almost 2 months off. When the (online) classes restarted, not a single teacher mentioned anything about projects so I thought we'd get away without any project as always and I was also learning programming languages on my own so I wasn't really worried even if some project was assigned.
But soon after the mids, all of a sudden, teachers asked us to submit project proposals, at that time I was about to start learning Unity + Blender for 3d game development as I had learned C#, python and pygame (and I did create a 2d game following the tutorials using it, in a few days) before the mids on my own so I thought I'd easily be able to create like two 3d games in two months so I submitted project proposals to create 3d games for two subject, different game for each. I also had develop a website for infosec course and had to learn html, php and javascript own my own since they taught us nothing.
But little did I know I didnt have two months for these three projects but 19 days, yeah, just 19 days. So I start stressing and working on learning Unity and web development, I developed a website by taking out a few days and then I start working on Unity again. But during these days, there were days when I was too burnt out or stressed to do anything so I had to take them off or I'd fear of going completely insane as till mids I had spent my days and nights (literally no exaggeration) into learning skills, so as soon as I got done with mids I felt really worn out, even during my last midterm exams I was like I was on coke or some drugs (I have never done any drugs but watched people suffer in movies and videos) as I didn't even really know what the frick I was writing in my exam.
Nonetheless I decided to take a few days off and watch some movies. So I started off with Jump Street 21 and 22, it was really fun but later I felt kinda sad when I found there was no more sequel to it. So later I watched a few more, one of them was Ryan Gosling's Blade Runner 2049 which had really emotional ending (at least for me). Finally I watched Batman Dark Knight series and I couldn't watch or do anything afterwards. I was somehow so invested in the movies characters that I wished they had more in the series but there were none. I started to feel really depressed and I used to feel like panicking. Just the mere thought of any movie was enough to put me in panic mode I couldn't help it. I didnt tell anyone in family, and as for the friends or girlfriend, I have none. Later, I found some quality YouTube channel "Ryan Is Driving", binged watched all of the videos and didn't take classes properly for like a week or two and it helped me get back to normal life.
Fast forward to these project days, I didn't want to be in that condition again so I knew I had to take my mind off these things off and on and watch youtube etc to chill. So I did.
Also, one thing to mention that these all were group projects and the members I have are utter dumbasses and they dont know a thing about projects. So I'm doing these group projects solely, which I usually prefer but not with projects like these. Wish I had at least a single friend who would help me out with this stuff and listen to my rants when I get too stressed.
Anyway, due to all these complications, I have been too stressed and it's increasing each day as the project submission date is just a few days ahead and I haven't even completed 1/4 of the Unity Project and haven't even started the AI project yet. I still have to learn the python's AI libraries.
Now my family doesn't exactly know why I'm being so angry and rude but I can't really tell them why. I dont want to. I can't.
It's not the fear of losing marks that stresses me but the fear of failure, the fear of not being able to achieve something I strived for. I could have chosen rather simple projects which wouldn't require extra steps like Unity but just some apps in C# and python but I wanted to do something extra for a better future. But turns out I miscalculated everything and overestimated myself. I dont know what to do anymore. Honestly, I just want to give up but part of me wants me to keep striving. And now there's no one to blame but me. I'm the sole reason I'm going through this. And I can't tell anyone.
[Ending note: I dont expect anyone to read this story but as the subreddit's name implies, it's just to get all this "off my chest"]
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2020.07.10 07:04 freddy665 Wotakoi: Love Is Hard For Otaku (2020)

https://m e ga.nz/file/nUYWFazB#KMXaAx2Jsc-HktWd_ZhQLTC7jdgBF1V_pTF8fgCNLhE
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The Japanese word otaku is a slippery one to define, but it is mostly used to define an obsessive fan of a pop culture phenomenon, such as anime or manga. In the wider culture, otaku long had a negative image as unkempt, anti-social and even sexually deviant. Say, a pudgy, wild-haired guy who rarely leaves his room except to buy sketchy anime, on which he is a leading expert.
But Wotakoi: Love Is Hard for Otaku, Fukuda Yuichi’s bubbly comic musical about two otaku who fall for each other, shows how that image has changed. Far from being grubby social outcasts, its central couple – a male gamer and a female fan of BL (“boys love” or gay romance) comics – work regular jobs and present as normal. That is, they indulge in their hobbies in their private time and try to hide their “otaku-ness” from their co-workers.
But when the fangirl, Momose Narumi (Takahata Mitsuki), lands a job at the company where the gamer, Nifuji Hirotaka (Yamazaki Kento), works, her mask immediately slips. Narumi and Hirotaka, we learn, were childhood pals and know about each other’s proclivities. But Narumi tells the handsome Hirotaka upfront that he’s not her type since she doesn’t date otaku. Looking as though he would be unimpressed by the apocalypse, Hirotaka coolly tells Narumi he can be her assistant at Comiket, Tokyo’s semi-annual market for self-published manga, where she sells her BL comics.
From here the film swings into a big song-and-dance number featuring the two principals with the lyrics “We don’t care if we’re not normal.” No, this is not your average otaku movie. However, Wotakoi is very much a manga adaptation, its source material being a web comic by the single-named artist Fujita. As in other such adaptations by Fukuda (Gintama, Psychic Kusuo), the acting is manga-esque and the action is over-the-top. But the film is also firmly grounded in the otaku mindset, evidenced by the abundant use of insider references that are impenetrable to outsiders.
Fortunately, the gags are broad enough and the story straightforward enough that a deep acquaintance with otaku arcana is not needed to follow along. Also, it is obvious from their first encounter that Narumi and Hirotaka are a match made in heaven (or an AI-generated algorithm), but their path to happiness is strewn with obstacles, some self-made, others not. One of the latter is Koyanagi Hanako (Nanao), a co-worker who is everything cute, ditzy Narumi is not: tall, sophisticated and ready to bed Hirotaka after a chance encounter at a bar. Another is Kabakura Taro (Saitoh Takumi), the snarly, demanding and attractive leader of Narumi’s work team, who shows her a more human face when they’re alone. The many musical numbers composed by veteran Sagisu Shiro are performed by the non-pop-star cast with surprisingly adequate skill. Think Emma Stone and Ryan Gosling in La La Land.
As Narumi and Hirotaka, Takahata and Yamazaki play their manga couple more with sharp characterizations than cartoonish mugging. And behind Narumi’s goofy anime imitations and Hirotaka’s affectless observations are human beings who want love – or an otaku’s best approximation of it.
In Japanese, with English subtitles.
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2020.06.23 04:19 dragonseternal To all those who are here because of Kimmy Yam's hitpiece, a few points to consider:

A few points in no particular order:

Firstly check out this gem of an article
https://www.nytimes.com/2018/01/06/opinion/sunday/alt-right-asian-fetish.html
Notice straight from the headline how, despite being full grown adult, independent Asian women with full agency choosing to date white supremacists, the author already attempts to absolve of them of their responsibility and complicitness in upholding white supremacy. So if and when any of you want to respond to AW trying to lecture Asians about "anti-blackness" in the Asian community, throw article this in their face.
"It's not [just] incel, Reddit conversations,” Choimorrow said. “I'm hearing this amongst people daily.” Now this is interesting, and it sounds like AM are more willing to call white worship out more openly, AWESOME! This is what happens with 8/10 AFs under age 40 are marrying and dating out. There's no point in keeping silent about what EVERYONE, including non-Asians, can see plain as day.
This quote from hitpiece:
"Ocampo had similar thoughts, explaining that more people should be demanding more complicated Asian male characters on screen, rather than those who fit “some perfectly chiseled IG model aesthetic,” he said, referencing carefully curated photos from models on Instagram."
This last bit is classic gaslighting and concern-trolling by this Uncle Chan. Seriously? Never mind the legions of full Asian and South Asian women in actual TV shows and Hollywood movies throwing themselves at white men left right and center. No, apparently what's really bad is the Instagram models of attractive Asian men, who frankly, put themselves there because mainstream liberal media doesn't want ANY actually masculine attractive FULL Asian males appearing on screen. Why doesn't this Ocampo jackass and this toxic Lu "journalist" take issue with any of the Chris Pine/Pratt/Hemsworth and Ryan Reynolds/Gosling etc. taking their shirts off for every movie? If anything, actually attractive and leading man looking AM are precisely the kind of AM that is kept out of big roles.
So let me lay this out: TOXIC ASIAN FEMINISTS AND SELF-HATING UNCLE CHANS ARE EXTREMELY THREATENED BY EVEN THE IDEA OF MASCULINE ATTRACTIVE FULL ASIAN HETERO-NORMATIVE ASIAN MALES BEING PRESENTED IN MEDIA. Because guess what? That would instantly raise the profile and status of full AM everywhere, which would in their petty toxic minds, diminish their own standing.
To the lus/chans: how long do you think you're going to be able to keep this up? Asia is about to dominate the next 50 yrs, do you honestly think full AM are going to allow ourselves to be sidelined when we're one of the largest consumer bases, period? One thing you need to learn from the whites you love so much: Money = Power, see you on the other side.

Finally, the following goes especially to all the toxic Asian Lus and Chans still angling for approval from the mainstream white liberal media:
1: Mainstream news and entertainment media, of which this "journalist" is a part, has a lower approval rating than Trump. Westerners on all sides hate them. Think about that, are you sure you want to give her any credibility?
2: Mainstream news and entertainment media has no moral authority on anything after their cheerleading for the Iraq War which led to slaughter of millions (among other things) for oil and their cover-up of the Epstein story for the sake of continued access to rotten British royal family. That's right, ignore child rape so you can interview the goddamn prince and duchess. People who cover for pedophiles have no place lecturing to anyone about racism. And these are just 2 of the countless egregious moral failings of these people.
3: The next half-century will be dominated by Asia both in economic might and media content projection, most of which will be controlled by proud Asians, especially full Asian men who do not kowtow to whites anywhere or tolerate disrespect from anyone, and will have the means to enforce this policy. If Elon Musk can see it and call it out, the rest of you had better take your heads out of your ass and figure it out quick. To all the AW lus and AM chans still clinging to your little footstool of status nestled between white men and white women, take a look around at America and the West today, do you honestly think it will take even a decade before China and all of East Asia completely surpass this mess? What do you think is going to happen to you and your position once this has come to pass? It is going to be so sweet to show how quickly you'll be shoved aside replaced, just watch. And it's wonderful you guys have such an overweening presence on Twitter and the news/entertainment media. All the easier to keep track and remember who you are, what you look like, and who you associate with and work for. We can all play the cancel game.
4: If you tools of the mainstream white liberal media wants to make enemies of proud Asian men everywhere, we will happily run your toxic racist bile through the biggest bull horn we can find for ALL ASIAN MEN AROUND THE WORLD to hear, to know who to recognize as enemy and impose consequences accordingly. So go ahead and run your mouths, it's so easy to save screenshots and copy down names.
5: To proud Asians who use Asian social media platforms, start sharing the self-hating racist bullshit like this article in your native languages with colorful commentary to your countries of ethnic origin at every opportunity, and make sure Asians everywhere know who these people are. Make them famous to all Asians, especially to proud Asian men, everywhere.
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2020.06.15 07:00 ranc1dpsych0 My Coming Out Manifesto

Hello everyone. Last week I came out as bisexual on Facebook and this was the post I made. I decided to share my post here (VERY SORRY FOR IT BEING SO LENGTHY) in hopes of anyone relating or least finding anything similar that resonated with them and their sexuality. Bisexuality is very broadly defined and fluid. Whatever that means to everyone else I applaud you in your honesty and integrity.
My post:
Its pride month. So I thought it was best now to be open about something. Ive stated before, “It isnt about loving yourself. Its more about honesty and forgiveness. It's about accepting who you are.” Nowadays that means something entirely different with my sexuality.
As a man, your first experience growing up is to have a first kiss with a girl as well as having your first sexual experience. That wasn’t the case for me. For me my first kiss, as well as my first sexual experience, was with another man. Let me start by stating that I suppose in the most technical sense, Ive always been bisexual, as in, yes, I have had a sexual experience with another man. Not many of you knew this. In fact only a select few have recently found out about that fact. Its a public fact now for everyone. I wont disclose who he is, but perhaps hes reading this, in which case I should say, I hope you understand why Im coming out like this. And I hope that you’ve found a way to sort through your own path after our escapades. I tried to not think much of our past experience, and Im glad we have remained close friends even after that fact, especially as if nothing happened. I don’t know about you though, but I’ve found myself to be in much reflection about my past and how to square it all away with my sexuality.
But the term "bisexual" never really resonated with me growing up. Ive found out (through research) that early sex play (whether prepuberty or postpuberty) is more common then most would assume, among both boys and girls. And that fact is more prevalent than many would like to admit. I was silent about my experience though because at the time, it was best to keep it secret, and later I didn’t think much of it growing up. Where I grew up it was best not to disclose such experiences as it may be frowned upon. “Youre not supposed to do that as a man” was a common conception my friend and I feared if other people found out what we did. So we put it behind us and forgot about it. I blocked it out of my mind, not knowing that the simple experience I had with my friend would reverberate throughout my life. A few years later I scored my first kiss (and also my first sexual experience) with a girl. And after that followed other girls.
I continued the trend that most other straight men followed. The more girls I was with the less I thought on the importance of my “homosexual” experience. But throughout every relationship something festered in the back of my head. Should I tell them about what my sexually experience was prior? Was it even worth it? At the time when I was with all my ex girlfriends, I was 2 parts ashamed to tell them and 2 parts “does it really matter?” At the time I didn’t really think much of my male to male sexual experience.
Toxic masculinity held me back from disclosing my past. There is a double standard in society. Women can explore their sexuality more openly growing up. In fact its encouraged in many ways. I mean come on, how many guys thought it was hot seeing 2 women kissing? And how many were you disgusted by 2 men doing the same thing? The same thing cant be said for men. In fact any sexual experience with another man is often consider immediately gay or at least emasculating (wrongly so). Besides, I was drawn to women, ever since I gazed upon my father’s Sports Illustrated Swimsuit magazines. After my “sexascapes” with my friend I didn’t have any sexual attraction or desire for other men. And I was comfortable with my sexuality to think, “gosh Ryan Gosling is pretty good looking. No wonder women want him” and not “I want Ryan Gosling inside me” sort of speak.
The more Ive disclosed my past with my friends and who I thought attractive, the more I found myself realizing that I didnt fit the heteronormative mold most people colloquially ascribe to. I felt less and less comfortable calling myself straight. Iv’e been groomed by society to compete with other men, but not with women. So with women Ive always could just enjoy them. Men on the other hand I had to garner feelings of jealousy towards them because of a 'competing mind', which may have clouded my feelings of attraction towards them. With girls its not just sexual, it's like looking at a beautiful painting and thinking i want that painting. But with a man It's more like admiration and jealousy. Looking at the painting and thinking i want to paint like that. I found it hard to discern whether I just wanted to ”look” like him or whether I just “wanted” him. How much of my filter was mere jealousy as opposed to attraction? Anyone can find anyone attractive, but romantic attraction and sexually attractive are where the line is. If you can see yourself dating, or having sex with any guy, you may be bisexual. Buckle up because things would change for me rapidly in 2020.
This realization and openness came to a focal point for me when I watched Philosophytubes most recent video “Antisemitism.” He is a very intelligent man and he is eloquent in how he speaks. He was clean shaven and looked attractive. But this time it was not in a admirable sense, but in a “I want to kiss him” sense. I haven’t felt that feeling since I was 13, and now I feel everything has changed for me again. I don’t know if this is just hidden repression or a new discovery of myself. I couldn’t really tell you. Im only telling all of you now because I am comfortable with labeling myself as bisexual.
I think most people have a general misconception when it comes to bisexuality. Its ok because I did too. Most people assume perceive a person has a 50/50 split in their sexual attraction when in reality its much more fluid and vague then most non bisexual people would like to believe. For instance a bisexual man can be sexually attracted to both men and women but may be able to only have a romantic attachment to women. Its not as clear cut as you would think. In fact its far more complex and dynamic then you could possible comprehend. This has been hard for me to explain for myself, which is partly why Ive held back for so long. I thought, “How many guys does a man have to find attractive before they can consider themselves bisexual?” Maybe its not something to be quantified. Feelings are feelings I suppose. I would say most of my attractions are drawn to women still, but I cant rule out if I find another man attractive in a different but still valid manner. Bisexuality pertains to the ability to be attracted both to individuals who are the "same" as you and to those are "different" from you, meaning I have the capacity to be attracted to people all across the gender and sexuality spectra.
I don’t want this to change peoples’ perspective of me too much. Ive been attracted to women because they are women. Ive admitted to many close friends that Im attracted to trans women because they are women. And now im admitting to everyone here that Im attracted to men (cis and trans) because of something I find in other men that is beautiful in its own regard, whether that be looks or personality (or both most likely).
I suppose the best way to put it is by quoting Robyn Ochs:
“I call myself bisexual because I acknowledge that I have in myself the potential to be attracted – romantically and/or sexually – to people of more than one sex and/or gender, not necessarily at the same time, not necessarily in the same way, and not necessarily to the same degree.”
Happy pride month.
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2020.06.15 06:53 ranc1dpsych0 Coming Out Manifesto

Hello everyone. Last week I came out as bisexual on Facebook and this was the post I made. I decided to share my post here in hopes of anyone relating or least finding anything similar that resonated with them and their sexuality. Bisexuality is very broadly defined and fluid. Whatever that means to everyone else I applaud you in your honesty and integrity.
My post:
Its pride month. So I thought it was best now to be open about something. Ive stated before, “It isnt about loving yourself. Its more about honesty and forgiveness. It's about accepting who you are.” Nowadays that means something entirely different with my sexuality.
As a man, your first experience growing up is to have a first kiss with a girl as well as having your first sexual experience. That wasn’t the case for me. For me my first kiss, as well as my first sexual experience, was with another man. Let me start by stating that I suppose in the most technical sense, Ive always been bisexual, as in, yes, I have had a sexual experience with another man. Not many of you knew this. In fact only a select few have recently found out about that fact. Its a public fact now for everyone. I wont disclose who he is, but perhaps hes reading this, in which case I should say, I hope you understand why Im coming out like this. And I hope that you’ve found a way to sort through your own path after our escapades. I tried to not think much of our past experience, and Im glad we have remained close friends even after that fact, especially as if nothing happened. I don’t know about you though, but I’ve found myself to be in much reflection about my past and how to square it all away with my sexuality.
But the term "bisexual" never really resonated with me growing up. Ive found out (through research) that early sex play (whether prepuberty or postpuberty) is more common then most would assume, among both boys and girls. And that fact is more prevalent than many would like to admit. I was silent about my experience though because at the time, it was best to keep it secret, and later I didn’t think much of it growing up. Where I grew up it was best not to disclose such experiences as it may be frowned upon. “Youre not supposed to do that as a man” was a common conception my friend and I feared if other people found out what we did. So we put it behind us and forgot about it. I blocked it out of my mind, not knowing that the simple experience I had with my friend would reverberate throughout my life. A few years later I scored my first kiss (and also my first sexual experience) with a girl. And after that followed other girls.
I continued the trend that most other straight men followed. The more girls I was with the less I thought on the importance of my “homosexual” experience. But throughout every relationship something festered in the back of my head. Should I tell them about what my sexually experience was prior? Was it even worth it? At the time when I was with all my ex girlfriends, I was 2 parts ashamed to tell them and 2 parts “does it really matter?” At the time I didn’t really think much of my male to male sexual experience.
Toxic masculinity held me back from disclosing my past. There is a double standard in society. Women can explore their sexuality more openly growing up. In fact its encouraged in many ways. I mean come on, how many guys thought it was hot seeing 2 women kissing? And how many were you disgusted by 2 men doing the same thing? The same thing cant be said for men. In fact any sexual experience with another man is often consider immediately gay or at least emasculating (wrongly so). Besides, I was drawn to women, ever since I gazed upon my father’s Sports Illustrated Swimsuit magazines. After my “sexascapes” with my friend I didn’t have any sexual attraction or desire for other men. And I was comfortable with my sexuality to think, “gosh Ryan Gosling is pretty good looking. No wonder women want him” and not “I want Ryan Gosling inside me” sort of speak.
The more Ive disclosed my past with my friends and who I thought attractive, the more I found myself realizing that I didnt fit the heteronormative mold most people colloquially ascribe to. I felt less and less comfortable calling myself straight. Iv’e been groomed by society to compete with other men, but not with women. So with women Ive always could just enjoy them. Men on the other hand I had to garner feelings of jealousy towards them because of a 'competing mind', which may have clouded my feelings of attraction towards them. With girls its not just sexual, it's like looking at a beautiful painting and thinking i want that painting. But with a man It's more like admiration and jealousy. Looking at the painting and thinking i want to paint like that. I found it hard to discern whether I just wanted to ”look” like him or whether I just “wanted” him. How much of my filter was mere jealousy as opposed to attraction? Anyone can find anyone attractive, but romantic attraction and sexually attractive are where the line is. If you can see yourself dating, or having sex with any guy, you may be bisexual. Buckle up because things would change for me rapidly in 2020.
This realization and openness came to a focal point for me when I watched Philosophytubes most recent video “Antisemitism.” He is a very intelligent man and he is eloquent in how he speaks. He was clean shaven and looked attractive. But this time it was not in a admirable sense, but in a “I want to kiss him” sense. I haven’t felt that feeling since I was 13, and now I feel everything has changed for me again. I don’t know if this is just hidden repression or a new discovery of myself. I couldn’t really tell you. Im only telling all of you now because I am comfortable with labeling myself as bisexual.
I think most people have a general misconception when it comes to bisexuality. Its ok because I did too. Most people assume perceive a person has a 50/50 split in their sexual attraction when in reality its much more fluid and vague then most non bisexual people would like to believe. For instance a bisexual man can be sexually attracted to both men and women but may be able to only have a romantic attachment to women. Its not as clear cut as you would think. In fact its far more complex and dynamic then you could possible comprehend. This has been hard for me to explain for myself, which is partly why Ive held back for so long. I thought, “How many guys does a man have to find attractive before they can consider themselves bisexual?” Maybe its not something to be quantified. Feelings are feelings I suppose. I would say most of my attractions are drawn to women still, but I cant rule out if I find another man attractive in a different but still valid manner. Bisexuality pertains to the ability to be attracted both to individuals who are the "same" as you and to those are "different" from you, meaning I have the capacity to be attracted to people all across the gender and sexuality spectra.
I don’t want this to change peoples’ perspective of me too much. Ive been attracted to women because they are women. Ive admitted to many close friends that Im attracted to trans women because they are women. And now im admitting to everyone here that Im attracted to men (cis and trans) because of something I find in other men that is beautiful in its own regard, whether that be looks or personality (or both most likely).
I suppose the best way to put it is by quoting Robyn Ochs:
“I call myself bisexual because I acknowledge that I have in myself the potential to be attracted – romantically and/or sexually – to people of more than one sex and/or gender, not necessarily at the same time, not necessarily in the same way, and not necessarily to the same degree.”
Happy pride month.
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2020.06.15 04:54 ranc1dpsych0 Coming Out Manifesto

Hello everyone. Last week I came out as bisexual on Facebook and this was the post I made. I decided to share my post here in hopes of anyone relating or least finding anything similar that resonated with them and their sexuality. Bisexuality is very broadly defined and fluid. Whatever that means to everyone else I applaud you in your honesty and integrity.
My post:
Its pride month. So I thought it was best now to be open about something. Ive stated before, “It isnt about loving yourself. Its more about honesty and forgiveness. It's about accepting who you are.” Nowadays that means something entirely different with my sexuality.
As a man, your first experience growing up is to have a first kiss with a girl as well as having your first sexual experience. That wasn’t the case for me. For me my first kiss, as well as my first sexual experience, was with another man. Let me start by stating that I suppose in the most technical sense, Ive always been bisexual, as in, yes, I have had a sexual experience with another man. Not many of you knew this. In fact only a select few have recently found out about that fact. Its a public fact now for everyone. I wont disclose who he is, but perhaps hes reading this, in which case I should say, I hope you understand why Im coming out like this. And I hope that you’ve found a way to sort through your own path after our escapades. I tried to not think much of our past experience, and Im glad we have remained close friends even after that fact, especially as if nothing happened. I don’t know about you though, but I’ve found myself to be in much reflection about my past and how to square it all away with my sexuality.
But the term "bisexual" never really resonated with me growing up. Ive found out (through research) that early sex play (whether prepuberty or postpuberty) is more common then most would assume, among both boys and girls. And that fact is more prevalent than many would like to admit. I was silent about my experience though because at the time, it was best to keep it secret, and later I didn’t think much of it growing up. Where I grew up it was best not to disclose such experiences as it may be frowned upon. “Youre not supposed to do that as a man” was a common conception my friend and I feared if other people found out what we did. So we put it behind us and forgot about it. I blocked it out of my mind, not knowing that the simple experience I had with my friend would reverberate throughout my life. A few years later I scored my first kiss (and also my first sexual experience) with a girl. And after that followed other girls.
I continued the trend that most other straight men followed. The more girls I was with the less I thought on the importance of my “homosexual” experience. But throughout every relationship something festered in the back of my head. Should I tell them about what my sexually experience was prior? Was it even worth it? At the time when I was with all my ex girlfriends, I was 2 parts ashamed to tell them and 2 parts “does it really matter?” At the time I didn’t really think much of my male to male sexual experience.
Toxic masculinity held me back from disclosing my past. There is a double standard in society. Women can explore their sexuality more openly growing up. In fact its encouraged in many ways. I mean come on, how many guys thought it was hot seeing 2 women kissing? And how many were you disgusted by 2 men doing the same thing? The same thing cant be said for men. In fact any sexual experience with another man is often consider immediately gay or at least emasculating (wrongly so). Besides, I was drawn to women, ever since I gazed upon my father’s Sports Illustrated Swimsuit magazines. After my “sexascapes” with my friend I didn’t have any sexual attraction or desire for other men. And I was comfortable with my sexuality to think, “gosh Ryan Gosling is pretty good looking. No wonder women want him” and not “I want Ryan Gosling inside me” sort of speak.
The more Ive disclosed my past with my friends and who I thought attractive, the more I found myself realizing that I didnt fit the heteronormative mold most people colloquially ascribe to. I felt less and less comfortable calling myself straight. Iv’e been groomed by society to compete with other men, but not with women. So with women Ive always could just enjoy them. Men on the other hand I had to garner feelings of jealousy towards them because of a 'competing mind', which may have clouded my feelings of attraction towards them. With girls its not just sexual, it's like looking at a beautiful painting and thinking i want that painting. But with a man It's more like admiration and jealousy. Looking at the painting and thinking i want to paint like that. I found it hard to discern whether I just wanted to ”look” like him or whether I just “wanted” him. How much of my filter was mere jealousy as opposed to attraction? Anyone can find anyone attractive, but romantic attraction and sexually attractive are where the line is. If you can see yourself dating, or having sex with any guy, you may be bisexual. Buckle up because things would change for me rapidly in 2020.
This realization and openness came to a focal point for me when I watched Philosophytubes most recent video “Antisemitism.” He is a very intelligent man and he is eloquent in how he speaks. He was clean shaven and looked attractive. But this time it was not in a admirable sense, but in a “I want to kiss him” sense. I haven’t felt that feeling since I was 13, and now I feel everything has changed for me again. I don’t know if this is just hidden repression or a new discovery of myself. I couldn’t really tell you. Im only telling all of you now because I am comfortable with labeling myself as bisexual.
I think most people have a general misconception when it comes to bisexuality. Its ok because I did too. Most people assume perceive a person has a 50/50 split in their sexual attraction when in reality its much more fluid and vague then most non bisexual people would like to believe. For instance a bisexual man can be sexually attracted to both men and women but may be able to only have a romantic attachment to women. Its not as clear cut as you would think. In fact its far more complex and dynamic then you could possible comprehend. This has been hard for me to explain for myself, which is partly why Ive held back for so long. I thought, “How many guys does a man have to find attractive before they can consider themselves bisexual?” Maybe its not something to be quantified. Feelings are feelings I suppose. I would say most of my attractions are drawn to women still, but I cant rule out if I find another man attractive in a different but still valid manner. Bisexuality pertains to the ability to be attracted both to individuals who are the "same" as you and to those are "different" from you, meaning I have the capacity to be attracted to people all across the gender and sexuality spectra.
I don’t want this to change peoples’ perspective of me too much. Ive been attracted to women because they are women. Ive admitted to many close friends that Im attracted to trans women because they are women. And now im admitting to everyone here that Im attracted to men (cis and trans) because of something I find in other men that is beautiful in its own regard, whether that be looks or personality (or both most likely).
I suppose the best way to put it is by quoting Robyn Ochs:
“I call myself bisexual because I acknowledge that I have in myself the potential to be attracted – romantically and/or sexually – to people of more than one sex and/or gender, not necessarily at the same time, not necessarily in the same way, and not necessarily to the same degree.”
Happy pride month.
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2020.06.15 04:29 ranc1dpsych0 Coming Out Manifesto

Hello everyone. Last week I came out as bisexual on Facebook and this was the post I made. I decided to share my post here in hopes of anyone relating or least finding anything similar that resonated with them and their sexuality. Bisexuality is very broadly defined and fluid. Whatever that means to everyone else I applaud you in your honesty and integrity.
My post:
Its pride month. So I thought it was best now to be open about something. Ive stated before, “It isnt about loving yourself. Its more about honesty and forgiveness. It's about accepting who you are.” Nowadays that means something entirely different with my sexuality.
As a man, your first experience growing up is to have a first kiss with a girl as well as having your first sexual experience. That wasn’t the case for me. For me my first kiss, as well as my first sexual experience, was with another man. Let me start by stating that I suppose in the most technical sense, Ive always been bisexual, as in, yes, I have had a sexual experience with another man. Not many of you knew this. In fact only a select few have recently found out about that fact. Its a public fact now for everyone. I wont disclose who he is, but perhaps hes reading this, in which case I should say, I hope you understand why Im coming out like this. And I hope that you’ve found a way to sort through your own path after our escapades. I tried to not think much of our past experience, and Im glad we have remained close friends even after that fact, especially as if nothing happened. I don’t know about you though, but I’ve found myself to be in much reflection about my past and how to square it all away with my sexuality.
But the term "bisexual" never really resonated with me growing up. Ive found out (through research) that early sex play (whether prepuberty or postpuberty) is more common then most would assume, among both boys and girls. And that fact is more prevalent than many would like to admit. I was silent about my experience though because at the time, it was best to keep it secret, and later I didn’t think much of it growing up. Where I grew up it was best not to disclose such experiences as it may be frowned upon. “Youre not supposed to do that as a man” was a common conception my friend and I feared if other people found out what we did. So we put it behind us and forgot about it. I blocked it out of my mind, not knowing that the simple experience I had with my friend would reverberate throughout my life. A few years later I scored my first kiss (and also my first sexual experience) with a girl. And after that followed other girls.
I continued the trend that most other straight men followed. The more girls I was with the less I thought on the importance of my “homosexual” experience. But throughout every relationship something festered in the back of my head. Should I tell them about what my sexually experience was prior? Was it even worth it? At the time when I was with all my ex girlfriends, I was 2 parts ashamed to tell them and 2 parts “does it really matter?” At the time I didn’t really think much of my male to male sexual experience.
Toxic masculinity held me back from disclosing my past. There is a double standard in society. Women can explore their sexuality more openly growing up. In fact its encouraged in many ways. I mean come on, how many guys thought it was hot seeing 2 women kissing? And how many were you disgusted by 2 men doing the same thing? The same thing cant be said for men. In fact any sexual experience with another man is often consider immediately gay or at least emasculating (wrongly so). Besides, I was drawn to women, ever since I gazed upon my father’s Sports Illustrated Swimsuit magazines. After my “sexascapes” with my friend I didn’t have any sexual attraction or desire for other men. And I was comfortable with my sexuality to think, “gosh Ryan Gosling is pretty good looking. No wonder women want him” and not “I want Ryan Gosling inside me” sort of speak.
The more Ive disclosed my past with my friends and who I thought attractive, the more I found myself realizing that I didnt fit the heteronormative mold most people colloquially ascribe to. I felt less and less comfortable calling myself straight. Iv’e been groomed by society to compete with other men, but not with women. So with women Ive always could just enjoy them. Men on the other hand I had to garner feelings of jealousy towards them because of a 'competing mind', which may have clouded my feelings of attraction towards them. With girls its not just sexual, it's like looking at a beautiful painting and thinking i want that painting. But with a man It's more like admiration and jealousy. Looking at the painting and thinking i want to paint like that. I found it hard to discern whether I just wanted to ”look” like him or whether I just “wanted” him. How much of my filter was mere jealousy as opposed to attraction? Anyone can find anyone attractive, but romantic attraction and sexually attractive are where the line is. If you can see yourself dating, or having sex with any guy, you may be bisexual. Buckle up because things would change for me rapidly in 2020.
This realization and openness came to a focal point for me when I watched Philosophytubes most recent video “Antisemitism.” He is a very intelligent man and he is eloquent in how he speaks. He was clean shaven and looked attractive. But this time it was not in a admirable sense, but in a “I want to kiss him” sense. I haven’t felt that feeling since I was 13, and now I feel everything has changed for me again. I don’t know if this is just hidden repression or a new discovery of myself. I couldn’t really tell you. Im only telling all of you now because I am comfortable with labeling myself as bisexual.
I think most people have a general misconception when it comes to bisexuality. Its ok because I did too. Most people assume perceive a person has a 50/50 split in their sexual attraction when in reality its much more fluid and vague then most non bisexual people would like to believe. For instance a bisexual man can be sexually attracted to both men and women but may be able to only have a romantic attachment to women. Its not as clear cut as you would think. In fact its far more complex and dynamic then you could possible comprehend. This has been hard for me to explain for myself, which is partly why Ive held back for so long. I thought, “How many guys does a man have to find attractive before they can consider themselves bisexual?” Maybe its not something to be quantified. Feelings are feelings I suppose. I would say most of my attractions are drawn to women still, but I cant rule out if I find another man attractive in a different but still valid manner. Bisexuality pertains to the ability to be attracted both to individuals who are the "same" as you and to those are "different" from you, meaning I have the capacity to be attracted to people all across the gender and sexuality spectra.
I don’t want this to change peoples’ perspective of me too much. Ive been attracted to women because they are women. Ive admitted to many close friends that Im attracted to trans women because they are women. And now im admitting to everyone here that Im attracted to men (cis and trans) because of something I find in other men that is beautiful in its own regard, whether that be looks or personality (or both most likely).
I suppose the best way to put it is by quoting Robyn Ochs:
“I call myself bisexual because I acknowledge that I have in myself the potential to be attracted – romantically and/or sexually – to people of more than one sex and/or gender, not necessarily at the same time, not necessarily in the same way, and not necessarily to the same degree.”
Happy pride month.
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2020.06.14 22:04 Osamabinswaggin97 Difficult times elicit massive change. My new beginning. (WARNING: LONG BUT FANTASTIC POST)

Hi guys,
Hopefully all of you are handling the events of COVID-19 and the ongoing protests well. Where to begin? I’d like to introduce myself and tell you of the quest I’m about to embark on.
So, I’m a 22 year old guy (will be 23 in a couple of months) with aspergers. I was bit of an atypical kid who was exposed to porn at a very young age...8 years old (previous post I said 13, my bad). You could probably imagine what kind of damage could be done to someone that young.
I didn’t, however, PMO until about 13 years old, but it quickly got out of hand. I would jack off at least once or twice a day, sometimes three or four. Probably my worst being fives times in one day.
This had stark effects on the quality of my life. I was very timid and shy, confidence was low, had bad acne (sometimes cystic), I barely talked to any girls in my freshman & sophomore year of high school, I barely participated in any activities in school (only wrestling for one year) and had serious trouble sleeping in my youth.
With leaving a volatile household at 18 years of age (I was living at my father’s house at the time, moved back to ma’s) and having no job, or direction in life...I was about to reach rock bottom. One night I was PMO’ing very late at night and noticed that after releasing, masturbating was no longer enjoyable. I knew it was time to make a change, and that’s when I found NOFAP.
I’ve had a good deal of experience with NOFAP/semen retention. With a couple of tries and failures, I got the hang of not fapping and experienced respectable success. As a matter of fact...I've actually written an article here before on this sub back in 2018. Although it isn't perfect and that I've matured much more, some of you may still extract some value from it. If you're interested, you can find the article right here. If I sound cringey in that post, I apologize, it's been a while since I've actually read it lol.
My two longest streaks were 6 months back in 2016 and 7 1/2 months in 2018-2019, and I must say...I never felt better at those times.
However...I’ve seem to have stumbled a bit. My casual streaks now only endure 2 weeks to a little over a month in time. Sometimes even shorter.
Between the middle of May and now, I’ve had about 10 relapses, which is probably my worst to date, but I have great hope for the future. I want to use my mistakes and fall backs I’ve had as the biggest spring board to my ultimate success.
It may seem unrealistic, but I want to achieve the impossible. I want to do NOFAP/semen retention for THREE YEARS STRAIGHT. Yes, you read that right.
So if I were to start this 3 year journey, then tomorrow, June 15, 2020 is when it will officially begin. With that said, I’d like to relay a summary of my current parts of life and what it's like in a currently and severely relapsed state:
SOCIAL LIFE: Since I moved to the south from the north about two years ago, I had a bit of a hard time adapting to my new environment (although I love it here) socially. I’ve made quite a few friends here through work, church and the like, but these connections aren’t nearly as deep as the ones I’ve fostered from home.
My aspergers amplifies my social challenges even more. I’m used to meeting my closest friends either through my already friends and siblings or through people I know very well.
I think I speak for a lot of folks on here when I say it’s quite awkward to just walk up to someone and try to converse with no previous affiliations.
Because of those factors (and most likely my recent relapses), I don’t have much interest going out to social venues to strike up conversation. Currently, I believe the most rich and rewarding friendships are never forced and just come very naturally.
As long as you are yourself and don’t try to push your friendship on someone(s) out of desperation, the best friends will just come naturally in your life and like you for you.
CAREEFINANCIAL SITUATION: Meh': is the best word I could use to describe this area. Currently working a shitty warehouse gig while studying to get my nutrition and personal training certifications.
I am also building a website for strength training and the like, which I’d like to turn into a good internet business.
Currently living at home with my folks, but if I get my certifications and land a gig, I’d like to be out by mid-fall. I’d say the only thing holding me back from moving out is just money.
Just a side note and MY personal opinion for you guys to maximize your NOFAP progress: Unless you find a high quality/reputable place that treats their people well, don’t go into the warehouse/construction field unless you have no choice.
It takes more that it could ever give...physically, mentally and emotionally. And that could do some serious wear and tear on your sexual health and libido, and all the extra stress could lead to a PMO. Just a thought.
WOMEN EXPERIENCES: This is an interesting one. For you naysayers out there, you can’t possibly deny that abstaining from whacking your diddly’ has serious benefits for improving how much women are attracted to you. If thousands of men notice how much more positively women treat them when they abstain and post about their experiences...maybe it’s time you consider they’re on to something? Anyways...
Currently, I’m single and I’m a virgin. I’ve talked to several girls in the past, but nothing ever came out of it. I’ve read several posts where guys have stated when they PMO girls would never ever look their way, but then girls suddenly fetishize them like Ryan Gosling (or whoever girls hold the ideal of hot to these days) when they don’t beat. To some degree, I totally agree.
Even when I was PMO’ing, I’ve had women told me that I’m an attractive man, so I can’t say that I’ve ever had a problem of girls perceive me as ugly. However when I’ve went on my longest streaks, that was turned up quite a few notches...to say the least.
I experienced a lot more physical contact from women and saw a much more, how do you say it...a softer side from them? Hear me out, I’m not joking when I say this stuff:
Women I worked with would bring me some of their cooked meals from home for me to lunch, some women would offer me their lunch or even offer to buy it for me. Some women would constantly compliment my appearance, even though I wasn’t wearing anything too snazzy (even more so if I did dress up).
Some would touch me constantly on the shoulder, arm and sometimes even chest. There was one lady I knew well who would randomly squeeze hug me and slap my ass on several occasions.
Currently, not much of that is happening now. During my journey (and in general), I'm striving to find someone I can be in a committed, successful long-term relationship with.
HEALTH/FITNESS: Despite finding NOFAP at 18 years old, I’ve actually been working out longer than that. I’ve been working out since I was 15, so this November will mark 8 years of on and off training.
When I relapse, I notice that I don’t have nearly as much focus and grit as I would when abstaining. My strength would be down, it takes much longer to recover from workouts, I don’t sleep as well, it’s harder for me to stick to good eating habits (although I consider myself way ahead of the vast majority of people) and most of all...I give up a lot easier.
I do notice that I seem leaner and more muscular when I start accumulating a decent streak, even more so the longer I stick with it. When you relapse, don’t you guys look and feel...deflated, like a balloon? That’s the best i way I can describe it.
Although there isn’t much scientific evidence right now proving that semen retention improves body comp, I always notice guys are saying that have more muscle and less fat when abstaining.
SUMMARY: my current symptoms from constant relapse are low energy/no motivation/ much weaker erections, much lower libido, far less attraction from the opposite sex, bad acne, decreased strength & muscle and increased fat, shitty sleep, lack of discipline, socially awkward, more timid and shy/less confident, decreased mental resilience and a lack of gumption.
So yeah, those are the biggest areas right now I could say are heavily affected by my relapses. Now, I will lay down the rules for my journey I must follow and never break, along with some exceptions and special implications:
MY NOFAP/SEMEN RETENTION JOURNEY FUNDAMENTAL RULES:
  1. I will not PMO (Hard mode style. If you don’t know what hard mode is, there’s plenty of information on this sub).
  2. I will not look at any suggestive/risky material online (unless it is publicly advertised and impossible to avoid, still try to avoid it anyways).
  3. I will only use YouTube for personal development (YouTube is one of my greatest vices for being productive and getting anything meaningful done. So I’m only using it for self-improvement and learning how to build stuff. Nothing else.)
  4. I will stretch deeply for 45 minutes before bed every single night (when I don’t stretch, I get pretty crappy sleep, and sleep is one the most important factors to well-being and success. I don’t care what anybody tells you.)
  5. I will read my goals twice a day, once before bed and second at night.
  6. Meditate for 15 minutes every morning.
  7. I will not eat sugajunk food. Only meats, fruits, veggies, healthy grains/starches and healthy sugar free desserts (only exceptions are birthdays, holidays, vacations and special occasions. I will state my “cheat meals” in my monthly progress posts.).
Those are the ground rules that I must follow, here are some exceptions:
  1. If I get into a relationship, it would be extremely unfair to my partner to deny having sex. These would be the only instances where orgasm/ejaculation is completely acceptable. It might be ideal if ejaculation is avoided...but hey, if it happens, it’s not a big deal. That’s the way it naturally should be.
  2. T.V. and video games are fine. As of right now, I don’t have any problems with losing control with how long I play games or watch tv (maybe for tv a little longer than I should, but nothing abnormal.). Some people think video games are the devil, but I think they take this notion a bit too far. If you have a lot of self control and don’t get lost for hours on your favorite console to play with your friends or whatever, why the hell not?
As of right now, those are the exceptions. I’ll probably come back to edit this post some more. But I think I’ve covered just about everything.
I will be posting next Monday (the 22nd) for a 7-day streak update, and from there on-forward, post every 15th of the month (example: July 15th would be the 1st month update, August 15th would be the second, etc.).
With the amount of experience and knowledge I’ve gained over the past years from this community and trying NOFAP myself, I thought I would give it a serious commitment, and you guys are welcome to join me on my journey if you’d like.
Thank you so much for taking time to read my post. I know this was so damn long, but I’m committed to sharing my insights and experiences on this community, since were all going the same place and in this together.
Until next time!
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2020.06.08 00:23 tonnie_taller The Wolfman Remake Updates: Release Date & Story Info

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2020.05.31 15:09 An_Guarda_Gramadai 'The Notebook' is an Awful, Gross Film

I know that it is a very popular movie, and is considered a cult classic when it comes to romantic movies, but it has such a disgusting message that I had to spew my opinion out onto this subreddit.
The male lead, Ryan Gosling's character, threatens to commit suicide if the female lead, Rachel McAdams's character, doesn't go on a date with him.
She had repeatedly denied his advances and was ON A DATE when he threatened to commit suicide IN FRONT OF HER.
This is disgusting, and the fact that he is rewarded for his behaviour is sickening.
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